tonymcewing's Blog

This is understandable, but, are you a step-parent? If not, I will be one of those who will try to help out with your question. And yes each individual child has their own unique characteristic trait. Those types of incidents can be irritating regardless to if you have children or not. Me personally would not allow my children to irritate or bug anyone in a way that I felt would irritate me because I am and was impatient. Yes I let them be children but they knew if mommy gave them that certain look in public, then that meant that it was time to cool it or we (meaning they) were going to make a special trip to the restroom or we were going home and denied of that particular privilege until we understood why. And yes even at the age of 3. Yes they would act silly, but they also knew that while their siblings or cousins were out having fun, they had to stay at home with grand-daddy.
“And that's exactly what happened numerous times, since neither the boy nor the girl seemed particularly adept at catching it. Add to that, the boy screaming at the top of his lungs and running around wildly while the ball bounced everywhere, including onto and under the tables of other patrons in the restaurant who were trying to enjoy their meals.” In this case I would have said something to the manager of the restaurant explaining to them that I would not patronize their business anymore or they would have to say something to the parent, as well as seat me or the parent elsewhere. If you have enough patrons complaining, I do believe that the parent would get offended and take the hint. I hav

Okay,delete the last comment, I do not know what happened or what keeps happening so I will try this again...
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I have experienced that a couple of times this month and I asked to be moved and if it consisted, I just got up and left and explained to the manager why, who in turn gave me a credit to return. My now adult children say that I have less patience now than I did when they were growing up (and they do not have children themselves, oooh, I wonder why? SMILE). The restaurant for me is a place to kind of relax while someone caters to me, since I am paying for it and I want to be able to enjoy that moment. I understand that it is a public place, and that we are all human, but we can respect each other to a certain extent. Many times, it is the privileged children that get away with those types of behaviors “just look at Paris.” It is not our place to say anything to the kids because that would not be right, but I have seen people to say some nasty things to the parents. Many times the parents get an attitude with you and want to make a big scene, so that is why I will bring it to the attention of the manager. Otherwise, I will say to the parent, look that ball hit me or my company a couple of times and you need to say or do something with your children. Today, many parents take it personal and feel that you should mind your own business. I had gone to a restaurant where I actually saw a gentleman call the police and tell them that the children were being neglected…“One sharp look from Mama McEwing immediately instilled the fear of God in me and I would have sat

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and instilling certain values and morals and the FEAR OF GOD into us, we learned quick…You are not expecting too much, many people just did not want a problem…I have a friend that is 86 and from Alabama with 12 children and he always say something whenever we all go out to eat and he holds back nothing if you get the point and he usually always gets his point across…he has noooooo patience.

See Tony, this person is a perfect example and they work in a restaurant and they understand exactly what I am trying to say...

You have made lefitimate statements concerning you CONCERNS...

I totally agree with Fluffy. My two daughters who are now 11 and 13 have never acted up in a restaurant. I'm not saying that they never tried, but all it took was the little look from me (the one where my eyebrow goes up) and they knew that that wasn't the place. I have always been complimented on their behavior, even on the trip back to Los Angeles from Seattle when I slept the whole 2 hours because I was having a gall stone attack.
The manager should have said something to the mother, after all there were other patrons in the restaurant trying to enjoy their meal.

oh yeah i think your great tony , you make me laugh ,

ddain is correct, I believe that this is the problem that most of us have and that is that most parents either don't care, are too selfish to think about others, or are unable to control their kids. I began taking my children out as soon as I was able to get out myself, so they grew up understanding what was allowed and what was not allowed. I am not saying that I did not have a problem from time to time and no parent can say the same because these are kids, and children will be children, but as far as my situation it was quickly nipped in the bud. It is something about that look that you give your children and they just know that they had better not try to misbehave or else…

I do not think that the mother was necessarily being ignorant; I just think that she just did not care. She was being incogitant. I am like Tatiana; my blood boils easily when I become agitated with something that can be avoided.

Well I’m not a dad, but I have taken care of many kids. Being a parent now is harder then it was back in day. Before our parents would smack us around if we did something stupid. That look that they gave us would work for a good reason. Because we all knew they would beat us like a government mule if we didn’t behave. Parents are discouraged to hit kids now, and the kids know this. So they rebel against parents more now because there is no threat behind the verbal warning. I think that is part of the problem. I don’t think that hitting kids is the only solution, but its part of it.

I think a child should receive a verbal warning. If that doesn’t work, then a lecture about what he is doing is wrong, and why it's wrong, and maybe a threat of what's to come if he/she continues misbehaving. Then if that doesn’t work, then I’ll bring out the paddle and blister some behind j/k about the paddle and blistering part. But a smack on butt should come next if all else fails. That’s the best way to go about it, in my opinion.

As for you not saying anything to the mother. Hmm well that could have gone in 2 different directions. One is that she would have felt embarrassed at the fact that she has to be told how to be a mother, and might have actually done something to keep her kids in line. The other way it could have gone is that she would have thought of it as a sign of disrespect. Most likely she would have said something along this line "I know how to raise my kids, don't tell me how to raise my kids. Who are you to tell me how to raise my kids? What do you know?" and would con

Dear Tony,

I have the same problem with parents who bring a crying infant into a threatre.

Most of my girlfriends have children. Even the 18 yr. olds. We take them to Chuckie Cheese, which is the home of "CHILDREN GONE WILD."

In fact, some of the white trash parents,(which makes white people look bad), use the place like a kindergarten. They drop them off, do some drug deal, then pick'em up before anyone is the wiser.

Now I may be a little biased, but I have to put up with this trash, which is worse than a big mess, and a bad stench in my rear yard.

Thats why I am a homebody. There is so much trash out there. It's a dangerous world and lousy parents are most probably the root of this evil. Children are the products of their parents. And this learned behavior (or lack of it) reflects on the upbringing.

Thats why I have 10 foot walls on three sides of my yard. That way, when a dirtbag jumps over it, on the way down he might break an ankle, which becomes the job of 'Beep-Beep' the Chihuahua, to bite it.



That way, when I come running out of the house with a Taser (less than lethal force) and 'light him up,' there is no way he'll be jumping over a 10 foot wall, while doing the funky chicken, with two barbs sticking out of his back.

Those miscreant children who reek havoc in restaurants usually become adult delinquents, whose laurels rests in becoming Future Burglars of America.

Parents control your children!

End of discourse,

Beep-Beep

Samo714,
this is absolutely correct but I was trying to be nice about it. In actuality, our parents would stomp a mud hole in our behind so tough that we would see the moon shining from the other side (SMILE). You know someone once called Child Protective Services against me and the police asked my then 6 year old did mom beat her. Her response was no my mom does not beat us and when she does disciple us it is out of love and I would rather for her to beat me than grow up with you beating me and end up in jail…they laughed and asked her did I tell her to say that and she said no, but I have seen and heard what some of the grown ups have been saying. In actuality, I cannot think of the Penal Code at the moment, the law states that any parent or guardian has the right to discipline their child within reasonable doubt. In other words don’t break their bones or leave bruises (now a days) and you will be cool.