Pretty Dall's Blog

very well put dal

I think it is the current "adults" of this country who need to wake up and take some responsibility. It is our responsibility to guide the youth of America to strive to be better. Unless we as the older generation show them the way how will they ever know? Thats what I always tell my kids when I give them advise or guidance. Thats what I'm there for. Clearly you parents did for you.

I've been doing a lot of thought concerning this topic lately. When I read your blogs I see a mixture of tremendous anger but I also see pain. I really think that not only this problem but many others stem from fear/pain/anger to hatred. As I've said a few times before I think this particular issue comes in two packages. One: it's inherited. Meaning The pain and injustices of the parents/grandparent are passed down to the children. Which also in my opinion scews the childs opinion of another race before they ever actually get to form there own opinions. Then there's the lessons thru life of personal injustices along the way. Very few people have skated thru life with out personal injustices somewhere. Depending on the injustice done will ultimately define a person as they grow. Hurt and anger turns to hatred for most. Hatred is an awful emotion. It eats away at your soul and leaves an empty bitter shell. Somehow people cannot help themselves but to fall into the same type of abusive behavior that has been bestowed on them. The (vicous?) circle. Instead of seeing how painful there situation was and not wanting to do that to another they tend to do the same as the people who have hurt them. It's like abuse. A person who grows up in an abusive family will tend to grow up and become the abuser. I never really understood that. But back to this subject. I really feel that people who lash out at another race has somewhere been hurt and in pain by someone in that race. That hurt and anger turns to hatered. People that hate have very blurred vision when it comes to dealing with a pr

Cont.... problem on a individual basis. Another example is rapists. They have a hatred towards usually a specific woman. Rape is seldom about sex. It's about hate. If people would try to see past the hate into the pain I think this and many other social problems could be dealt with much better. Pain is almost always the cause of hatred. The healing process will never begin until people can start the forgiveness process. Forgivenss is not for the offender but for the offended. It brings peace to the soul.

khl, that was very well put, but on the flipside of that coin, people need to be able to express their anger in a "healthy" way. We all have our days and if you think about it, we go home and vent to our spouses, parents, friends or whoever is close to us. Unfortunatly there are many youth who do not have that network of people they can vent to and release that anger, so it festers and eventually just blows up in one way or another. My biggest problem is parents these days, don't misunderstand me, there are many very good parents out there however there are many bad one's as well. Parents have to mold their children and kids learn from their parents for many years until they make friends and so on, too many parents now either don't care, or have the time or are just afraid of sitting and listening and yes at times, disciplining. Yes I said it, kids need discipline that doesn't mean beating them but they need guidlines and rules. Many parents have the habit of forcing thier personal opinions on their children and not giving them a chance to form thier own. I have had friends who trash talked their childrens fathers and other races, religions, sexual prefrences and these kids have grown to hate and it is not fair to them, they don't have a chance to grow and learn about others that could potentially add so much to thier lives. Yes forgivness is key but it is also very hard when you have no one to talk to you and get advise from.

Another thought I had... Has anyone seen the movie The Breakfast Club? Even though that movie was a goofy teenage movie I felt it was an excellent portrayal of how parents behaviors effect there childrens social behaviors, and definately promoted social splits. The root of the movie was actually kind of sad but eye opening for me.

Absolutely the best blog yet and the responses as well, KLH1886, you have made some very valid points and i absolutely love the association with the breakfast club i havn't seen that movie in years but i do remember the message and that is a perfect example of children and their relationships with their parents.Dall have you ever thought of going into journalism? seems you have the drive and you seem to be very intelligent and there is definetely a demand for young african american men in journalism don't you think? You have alot to say and the more people hear it then who knows what you have the ability to change!once again great convo guys!!!

This was a very intelligent debate/discussion about race and race relations.

I think things are finally changing on this site, thanks to bloggers like Ellak and others who do their duty as good and decent people.

sorry. I meant SMUDGE.

dal, again, well put. funny how dal got all the "props" for not walking on eggshells but I got my butt kicked for it.........nice