What I'm going to write will irritate some folks. I don't mean to be insensitive, nor do I mean to be uncaring. Quite to the contrary, I mean to be kind...kind to the children of the future.
That being said, the recent story out of Gloucester has caused me to rethink how we, as a society, have gotten to the point that 17 girls, from 17 families in one community could have such a cavalier attitude toward parenting, and toward the future of children. How, in the Name of God, have we gotten here? This is not a story of a "bad family" or a "bad school" or a "bad community." This is the story of a "bad policy" put into place with good intentions.
Our present welfare policy is failed, ladies and gentlemen. It is the proximate cause of the problem in Gloucester and across the country. By paying directly, with our tax dollars, for having babies (Aid to the Families of Dependent Children - AFDC - "Welfare"), we have created what has become the largest cottage industry in the country, having children and collecting AFDC to support them. And with that industry, we are supporting the destruction of the lives of hundreds of thousands of children and the potential demise of our society as we know it.
Here's the math: to make AFDC work, a woman has to have 4 children. Then, a single mother can afford an apartment (Section 8) and have enough money for a nice car. She can afford babysitting (subsidized daycare) and can buy jewelry and have her nails done professionally. Unfortuantely, that causes a generational problem. One lifetime (important word here, I'm not referring to those respectable women who find themselves pregnant, by mistake and use AFDC as a springboard to self sufficiency) AFDC recipient becomes 4 teenagers who have no working role model, nor a parent who understnad show to get a job and be successful. Those 4 become 16 in the next generation and 256 in the third.....even if a modest number of these children "make it" by learning sefl sufficiency outside their own families, we still have a logarithmic crisis.
Do we want to do this? I doubt it. Is this kind to children? I don't think so. Is our goal to create foolish and unsuccessful children and adults? Not likely. But we are.
What we need to do is think of children first; we need to place the happiness and, more so, the convenience of, parents a distant second. We need to expect that each child will have a parent (preferably two) who is an excellent role model. One of the minimal standards of being an excellent parent is holding down a job and supporting yourself and your children. Any less is unacceptable.
At the same time as we have this crisis...the crisis I call "Childbirth as a Cottage Industry"....we have another. We have thousands of couples who are childless. Childlessness is the result of many factors, but we have "a gazillion" successful folks who are importing third world babies so that they can be parents.
What would happen if we time-limited AFDC? What would happen if we made having employment (one parent) be a minimal standard of being a parent? What if we set in motion a child welfare policy that took from parents their parental rights if one parent wasn't supporting his/her child?
Wouldn't both children and society be better off?
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charlestown27
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Chip
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CforSRandCS
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Chip
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CforSRandCS
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Chip
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heatherfont
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Chip
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Just your average guy, married to a woman who is incredibly smart and possibly more conservative than I am. Father of three and grandfather of one soon to be two. Devoted Patriots fan and season ticket holder, snowmobile enthusiast and lifelong public servant.
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